HOW TO AVOID GHOSTING: DATING WITHOUT THE DRAMA
Alright, so there’s a little drama still involved otherwise that would be boring. But there are some pretty decent strategies to avoid being ghosted by a girl or guy:
- Take it slow. Don’t show all your cards at once. If it feels like everything is going too quickly, put the brakes on. Always keep a little of yourself held back; you’re a complex puzzle and they should want to take the time to fit the pieces together (think: less Jenga, more Trivial Pursuit).
- Match their energy. Give as good as you get. If they’re letting you down and not showing up, be a little indifferent – try not to go in hard with the emotional responses. It’s the “I’m not angry, I’m disappointed” dating equivalent.
- Keep balanced. Don’t make your whole day all about them. Keep up with all the other stuff you enjoy and keep an active mind. You’ll be less fixated on slower responses (and there’ll be more to chat about when you do eventually talk).
GHOSTING: RELATIONSHIPS WILL ONLY GET BETTER
So, being ghosted in a relationship teaches us a few things, and while it feels pants, it’s not the worst thing. Nine times out of ten, if someone is really into you, they’ll find ways and means of making things work. If they don’t, getting ghosted by them has done you a twisted favour; you now know more of what to avoid / what sort of person you want to be around in the future. Look out for those signs before having to wait it out.
But if it does happen and you’ve well and truly got the spooks, rediscover your mates and go and have a laugh. If they’re wearing boiler suits and proton packs, you’re in luck. Who you gonna call? Truth is, any set of mates worth their salt will do a pretty good job of busting those ghosts. And they’ll even answer the phone.