You should probably go for a dating detox, if:
You’re not having fun. Because that, my friend, is the name of the game. If you’re not enjoying it, don’t force it. Don’t like football? Then don’t play it. Don’t like coffee? Then don’t drink it. Don’t like homework? Then don’t – actually you should probably do your homework. But you get the idea. If the fun has gone out of dating, though, then chances are, the fun has gone out of you, and you need a break. Nobody wants to be a fun sponge.
If you feel like you’ve ‘lost yourself’. Yeah, we know – ‘taking a break from a relationship to find yourself’ sounds super cringe, but it’s actually a pretty good reason to take a break from dating. Besides, think of all those people that actually went off on their Gap Yah and actually did sort of return a better person (once they stopped talking about it).
If you’re looking for a partner to ‘fill’ something you feel is missing. If you don’t feel complete unless you’re in a relationship, then it might be time to relearn how to focus on yourself. Going on dates with your crush can be fun, but you know what’s equally great? Hanging out with mates. Playing your favourite video game. Chilling with your dog. Relationships aren’t the be-all and end-all, but quality ‘me time’ always is.
3 benefits of a dating detox
1. Learn how to focus on yourself
By taking a break from dating, we’re suddenly faced with endless amounts of time we otherwise would have spent swiping and messaging. It’s amazing the headspace it frees up, with new time to learn how to focus on yourself. Always wanted to learn the drums? Now’s a good time to pick up some sticks. Want to perfect a kickflip? Well get your board and practise. Need some ‘me time’? Then run a bubble bath and turn up the Taylor Swift (trust me on this, it’s heaven).
2. Figure out what you want from dating
Mindlessly swiping on Tinder or Bumble until your thumbs are sore isn’t the best way to figure out what kind of person you’re into. Giving up on dating and relationships for a set amount of time can help with this, so you can focus on learning more about yourself and your interests during the break. Do you prefer Harry Potter or LotR? A night out or Netflix and chill? Pancakes or waffles? You get the gist. Once you’re ready to jump back into the dating game, you’ll have learnt what it is you like, as well as the stuff you’re not keen on, so you never have to be the “I’ll have what she’s having” kind of guy ever again.
3. Become a better partner
We went there. If you’ve taken the time to get comfortable in your own skin and figure out what you want in a relationship, then you’ll find that dating in the future is easier. A good partner knows what they want. You’re more likely to a) match with someone who’s a better fit and b) enjoy the relationship more as a result – it’s a win-win situation. Look at you go.