You might think breakups suck – but they actually don’t. It’s the first step towards a newer, better relationship. And in the time between those relationships, your breakup gives you more time with the boys. And a chance to meet new people. But there might be moments where you’re not buzzing with a new-crush-rush. So, what can you do?
Moving on after a breakup
When a relationship ends, things might look a bit bleak – we know, we’ve been there. But it’s time to have a word with yourself and figure out how you’re going to start moving on after your breakup. Look to these relationship experts (random guys) we’ve gathered, and their advice on how to start dating again.
1. Embrace your emotions
Breakups will hurt for a little while, so instead of fighting the current, it can be easier to just ride out the wave. Jake, 19, said “Learning it’s ok to be upset was one of the best bits of advice my parents gave me. One of my friends tried to brush off being upset about a breakup. I think he felt like he couldn’t be upset because it wasn’t a super-long-almost-married-100-year-long-relationship – and he bottled up his emotions – which I get, but I also get emotional when I finish a great sandwich, and that only lasts a few minutes. Or seconds, if I’m hungry. Sorry, what was the question again?”
Take some inspiration from Chandler in ‘that episode with the bath’ and embrace some ‘me time’ – bubble baths and scented candles aren’t just for girls. If you’re not 100% comfortable with this strategy, look for a scented candle that has the scent of something ultra-macho. Like wolves. Or explosions.
2. Don’t stalk your ex on social media
We hate to break it to you, but no one’s convinced you’re watching your ex’s Tik Tok because you like the song. “But it’s so catchy.” We see you.
While it may be tempting to have a quick scroll through their IG profile or check out their latest Snap, social media isn’t your friend when it comes to moving on. As Mike, 21, said, “the best thing I ever did was unfollow my ex on all social media – that way, I couldn’t even be tempted to check out her account. Plus, I deleted her number, so there was no embarrassing 2 AM “I miss you” text. Now I just send those texts to the homies.” So be like Mike, and smash that Unfollow button.
3. Speak to your friends
Your friends are there to support you in CoD just as much as they’re there to support you after a breakup. “When my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me, I didn’t want to tell my friends because I was embarrassed” Dan, 18, told us. “But when I did, they were so supportive. You don’t realise how much you unintentionally open up when you’re all playing online together, camped in a house and just chatting rubbish.”