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What to do on a second date to keep things steamy

Secured a second date? Awesome. We believed in you all along. Now it’s time to make a fool-proof plan to keep things rolling. If you’re fresh out of good second date ideas, look no further.  

Second date rules for guys

When it comes to dating tips, second date planning means you’ve already done something right. Maybe every joke you told had them laughing, or you managed to pull off that triple-denim look (brave choice), or you smelled good (it’s definitely because you smelled good). Here’s what to think about for the big second date:

  • Some solid second date advice is to make it more personal than the first time you hung out. Show that you were listening to them on your last date — and now you want to know more. 
  • First comes love, then comes — hold your horse-drawn carriage. A second date means further interest, not marriage. If your thoughts are racing ahead and you start to panic over any commitment implied by a second date, rest assured that it’s way too early for the talk. Just enjoy getting to know one another for now.
  • Wondering whether to go in for a kiss? If the moment is right, your crush is showing signs they’re into you, and you’re feeling fresh – go for it! There’s no guide for when you should take things to the next level; it’s all about chemistry (the kind you can’t revise for) and timing.
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It’s cool, there are ways of getting closer without getting physically closer. No, really. It’s called talking.

Our best second date ideas on a budget

No money? No problem! Taking someone out on date numero dos doesn’t have to break the bank. What matters is that you both have a good time. If you’re all out of dough, here are a few ideas for places to go where romance can grow (without you looking like a cheapskate):

  • A park (either one you know well or one with top reviews on Yelp) — bring a picnic (but find out their dietary requirements first)!
  • A skating rink (if it’s cold enough — avoid rinks where skate rentals are a total rip-off).
  • Get yourself on the VIP guest list for a mate’s band’s concert (if you don’t have any mates in bands, get some).
  • If your crush is into art, hit up a gallery and make sure you read up on the stuff on display in advance.
  • Are you and your crush sporty? Get down to that pitch and do your best Ronaldo impression. Even if you’re terrible, you’ll at least make your crush laugh.

Great second date ideas for socially distanced times

Need to be six feet apart at all times? It’s cool, there are ways of getting closer without getting physically closer. No, really. It’s called talking.

Second date tips for convos:

  • Reduce the noise — a quiet setting means you two won’t have to shout “PARDON?” every time one of you says something, which helps to get the chat flowing.
  • Tongue-tied? We’ve got your back on that one. Check out these questions to ask that we’ve thought up. We’re the GOAT. Say nothing.
  • Follow up on what your crush reveals about themselves (hopefully you did this on the first date, too). This also helps you remember what they’re into.

Want some physical action even though you can’t touch? Challenge them to a game of one-to-one football, tennis, crazy golf, or volleyball to turn up the body heat (make sure you’re wearing a great-smelling antiperspirant). Just don’t be a sore loser if your crush wins.

All good second date ideas revolve around getting to know your crush better, so enjoy spending time with them without any pressure. If things go well, you might get to spend even more time with them — and can you really imagine anything better?