How to have the talk: more likely scenario
It’s not like we’ve never heard ‘just talk to them’ before.
It’s the internet’s favourite response, even when it’s never as zen and straightforward as it’s made out to be.
It’s nervy as anything, we don’t always know how they feel about the situation, and rejection sucks.
It’s a mistake to think that we don’t experience the emotional merry-go-round of ‘are they into me or not?’ because we’re guys. If we care, we do.
Take the pressure out of the dating ‘exclusive’ talk:
· Forget having to define the relationship talk altogether by ditching the labels.
· Start with discussing the general direction of whatever it is you’ve got going on at the moment. Where do you both see yourselves going?
Open questions equal open talk. Dating is for the sweet torture of not knowing, relationships should offer a little more certainty.
When to have the talk
For the chosen few, the transition from dating to relationship is a chilled affair. Maybe you both decided to delete your dating apps at the same time, and that was that. We’re happy for you, really, we are.
For the rest of us, it’s a week’s worth of sleepless nights, trying to figure out when to have the talk –– when the joke of it is ––– the right time was probably when you first thought about asking them!
Don’t overthink this.
If you’re not hesitant, they’re bound to catch your committed vibes.
Going from dating to a relationship with someone doesn’t need to be a big thing. Don’t be fooled by the hype. As with some of the best things in life –– food, anyone? –– go with your gut.