HOW TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE OVER TEXT
Knowing how to break up with someone through text fully depends on how long the relationship has lasted, as Matt, 19, so wisely put it: “The breakup text I would send to someone I just went on one date with would be very different to the text I’d send a girlfriend of two years. I’d definitely try to at least call her if meeting in person wasn’t possible”.
For the best breakup texts, keep these three things in mind:
- Keep it short and sweet. No one wants an essay detailing all the reasons why you don’t want to date them. Be upbeat, friendly, and stick to the point. Something like - ‘Hi Katie, I hope you’re well. Thanks for meeting me on Thursday. I enjoyed debating who has been the best Spiderman with you (definitely Tobey Maguire) but if I’m honest, I don’t feel there was a romantic connection between us. Always awkward being the person to say this but didn’t want to ghost you!’ – this way you are polite and respectful but make it clear that you don’t want anything more.
- Re-read the text before sending. Autocorrect can be ducking annoying at the best of times but if you’re on the receiving end of a breakup text that has lots of spelling errors, it may look like the other person just doesn’t really care, and this can hurt. Make sure to double check the text before sending it!
- Avoid clichés. Saying ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ is almost as bad as spelling mistakes – it just feels a bit like a cop-out text with zero thought put into it. The best breakup texts are ones that are respectful and have had at least some thought put into them.
HOW TO NOT BE A JERK AFTER BREAKING UP VIA TEXT
No matter how well the text is written and thought about, the other person still may have questions about how it’s come to this. Particularly if the relationship has been more than just a couple of dates, carrying on the conversation to explain your thoughts and feelings may help you both get closure.
Apparently, there are ways to break up via text without being a jerk. Who knew?