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Questions to ask a girl to get to know her better

Sure, you could just scroll through her Twitter or check out her Insta, but if you really want to get to know someone, it’s worth having a bit of chat that goes beyond the feed. The next time you’re having a video call, float these ‘getting to know you’ questions. Dating by numbers. In a retro, old-but-gold kinda way.


Hopefully, we already know a few things about them, like her name, age, and where she’s from. To get a better idea about what they’re thinking and to show them you’re interested / a smoothie / low-key suss out if she’s GF material, here’s what to ask a girl to get to know her. Slip these cheeky one-liners into the convo if the chat is running a little dry, or use them to kick things off:

  • What’s your favourite thing to do on the weekend?
  • What career do you want when you’re older?
  • What’s most important to you: money, power, or fame?
  • Are you more introverted or extroverted?
  • What’s your favourite movie/band/book?
  • If you had to choose one meal to eat right now, what would you pick?
  • What’s your biggest phobia?
  • At a party, are you more likely to be on the dancefloor, at the bar, or somewhere else?
  • Where’s your dream holiday destination?

Dating questions to get to know someone should be as low-key as is natural. It’s not a laugh if it starts to feel like an interview. Good chat is a two-way thing. Hopefully, she’ll start firing them back at you. Your biggest phobia? Not seeing her again. And spiders. Obviously.

Even if you’re just stuck in your bedroom, you can make it look like you’re on a tropical island with some filters and stuff.

Dating questions to get to know someone should be as low-key as is natural.


So, we’ve been through the first set of getting to know you questions for dating, and things aren’t going terribly. But a little more is needed before her name appears in the Insta bio. Get your swimmers on, things are about to get a little bit deeper with these questions:

  • Who do you get on the most with, in your family?
  • How do you think your friends would describe you?
  • What does your dream future look like?
  • Would you want to travel in the future?
  • What’s your favourite childhood memory?
  • Where do you feel most at home?

Best to avoid the quick-fire approach with these. Tread carefully; let the dust settle before plunging into the deeper side of things. The great thing about this is that you’ll already have a feel for chemistry, judging from their first lot of answers.

If you’re heading out on a date or video calling a BFF to see if they could become a GF, there’s no harm in a little prep with these questions to ask a woman to get to know her. Trust. You’ll get to learn a lot more than the socials alone could tell you.